All the child wants is love, love and more love.  Is this kind of love attainable on this earth? from earthly mothers?  in this day and age, it seems humans do not know how to love.  Love is equated with possession, abuse, control and all kinds of possessiveness that is being justified as love by everyone involved in these relationships.

A mother who controls her child to the extent of not allowing the child to be herself, himself, may justify it as love and discipline.

Our earthly values taught us that jealousy in a relationship means love and part of romance.  That someone who loves us should be jealous and possessive.

These values also taught us that possessiveness means love – the more someone loves us, the more possessive they can become and it’s acceptable for a man or woman to be possessive, own their prize of “love”.  Love has been misnamed, love doesn’t hurt, love heals, frees the spirit, allows total freedom to the spirit, love does not possess, but fear does.

When we are a child, we look to our parents for our own model to mould our own life.  If our parents were not very balanced, then we become unbalanced too.  When in the womb, how did our mother feel? were they happy of our arrival? of our existence? of us adding to their beautiful world or adding to their misery?

When we were in the womb, what seed was planted? seed of love or fear?  this will reflect our life onwards.  If our life is good, we attract good men/women/partners/friendships, then they have done a good job of loving us, honouring us, teaching us strong boundaries, setting us free to learn, make mistakes, choose our own life and how to live it.  If not, the likelihood is that, we continue to make bad choices which take us back to destruction/fear/pain and suffering.

The good news is, whatever our life is right now, know that from now, this point on – we can make the change, if we are devoted to our own cause – self love, self honour, self worth, self mastery.  This can change everything, honouring the self gives us everything we need, once we start to honour the self, we can go back to the past and heal it.

Once we start to honour the self, we will see that the past holds all of the secrets, a lot of it when we were not even aware of ourselves, i.e, when we were in the womb, or age between 0-7 years, that’s when the foundation were set for us.  If we had a bad childhood, bad start, we can change it for us in the present.  Heal the childhood, give ourself space to feel the grief, the pain or failure of our parents/family members, know that they had a lot of traumas too, which goes back generations to ancestors of the past.

The traumas and pain we feel is not something we feel alone.  All of our ancestors feel the same, the energy gets passed from generation to generation in our DNA and bloodline, nothing ever goes away, until it is acknowledged and healed.  In acknowledging our pain, we must also acknowledge the pain of our ancestors.  Constellation healing, family placement healing is a good way of giving ancestors a platform to heal and be heard.

Acknowledging ancestors pain is a powerful way of healing our pain and suffering, the greater our pain, the more destructive our life, the more pain that is stored in the ancestors’ DNA, subconscious minds, which must be healed.  It can be complex to deal with family/ancestors’ healing, as when you begin, the thread keeps on unravelling which can seem infinite in nature, as ancestral lineage can go back to millenia and if we take each person has their mother and father and grandparents, great-grandparents and so on, their pain and suffering, can go on for what seems to be forever.

But, if we want to deal with our own healing, we have to deal with the pain and suffering of the ancestors, we are linked, the tree of life, has roots, the trunk, branches and fruits.  Which means we are part of a tree, if parts of the tree is sick, then we can’t be well.  The tree as a whole needs to be looked at for us to be healed as part of the tree.  If there is cancer in a part of the tree, it will catch up to the rest at some point.

In every generation there is a healer, but it depends if the healer can respond to the challenge and do the job, if the job is not done in that lifetime, then the task goes to the next generation, to the next healer, who again, if they do not rise to the healing challenge, then the task gets passed on and on and on and the healing demands more energy and becomes a bigger task.

Everyone must take responsibility of healing and dealing with their own pain and suffering.  If they don’t then the healer becomes the one who bears the burden of the whole ancestral lineage, this can become and impossible task to achieve for one person.  it is better to have more than one healer in a lineage of ancestors.  This way the work is shared and the family heals fast.  When we acknowledge the ancestors suffering, we give it space to heal, feeling the feelings of our ancestors, releasing them from their binds, karma is liberating to the souls of the past, present and future.

The inner child heals completely when it feels safe, protected, loved and honoured.  This can only come when the adult loves their inner child, that is the biggest love and healing that will ever take place for the child.  Self love is the greatest love and when the child accepts divine healing from the source, in the knowledge that humans are not perfect, divine is whole and only divine spirit can heal the child to wholeness and be the mother, father that the child has always needed, wanted and craved for.

When the child understand its own journey in this humanly existence, it heals completely.  The inner child goes through a lot of trauma in its existence, in the womb, outside of the womb, growing up in an alien world, feeling different, unloved, lost, separation with itself, with others and then coming back to itself.

The finding the self part is very exciting, most of our life we think we are our parents, our friends, others on telly, we take parts of others and mimic to make believe we are who we aren’t.  Then, when we become empowered, we remove all those fake layers and reveal ourself to ourself first and then the world.

We aren’t our mother, our father, brother, sister, friend/s, people on telly, we are totally unique, one of a kind, someone that is limitless, we exist at the same time we don’t exist, we are love, the sum of all that’s happened, the lessons, our ancestors, the sky, the elements, the earth, the water, fire, wood, trees, birds, butterflies, flowers, the star, planets, our art, we are and we  aren’t all of these at the same time. No one can define who we are, as we are limitless beings of unlimited powers.

healing the inner child takes a long time, commitment and love to free ourselves from pain and suffering, this is total enlightenment and can be achieved on this plane.  We can be free of pain and suffering, we can heal all of our pain and emotional suffering, our body, mind and spirit – minus the lessons of karma we have elected to learn in this lifetime.

Clearing karma is a must to reach freedom from pain and suffering.  Total freedom of the soul is achievable, through hard work, patience and a lot of clearing work.  The healing begins when the soul says, I want to be free, the healing begins and the soul becomes free in its own time.

Kiran G