Category: Speak UP

Speaking Our Truth, whilst being Loving!

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 Speaking our Truth!

When delivering information, wisdom and knowledge to groups, in public speaking, it is important to innestand that our truth is not other people’s truth.  Even well researched pieces can and will be contradicted and criticised.

I have seen great speakers, mentors, life coaches, motivational speakers being atacked and criticised for their truth, no matter how well researched.  WE have to accept that others will not always agree with what we have to say, teach and speak about.  AND that’s ok.

Others bring us a lot of knowledge.  They are also teaching us to be mindful of what we say, take responsibility, to be careful, to research our work and to also apologise when we get it wrong.  Sometimes, we will mean something and others will understand something else, they will take it out of context and not understand what was said, when spoken in the context of the subject. They may not innerstand the context in which it was said, the matter or subject, or it may be totally alien language to them.

Understand their pain, with Love.

There is always something to learn from what others are telling us, as feedback.  If we listen with awareness, non-judgemental filter and without defensiveness, we can see, hear what they are saying.  We can hear their fear of the truth that has been revealed.

We may not like what they are saying, but they are teaching us a lot, it may be that they are angry with us for showing them the truth, that they are not ready to accept and it’s why they become angry.

Sometimes, when information presented prematurely, they will get angry and are not able to accept it.  Knowing that the person is NOT READY for that raw truth is also a skill. Apologising to that person can soften the pain for them, as they struggle to ingest the new information,  this will teach them that it’s ok that you are not ready for the information and that I am sorry for the opening your wound, subconsciously, they are not aware that the struggle is there, we have opened a door that they never wanted to open and they glimpsed behind it and are angry at themselves, this can translate into anger shown towards you, but it isn’t you they are angry with, they are angry with themselves.

Trolls are in Pain!

Some can go a great length to show that you are wrong in your teachings, continuous anger, trolling, victimisation campaigns ( as I have seen some famous mentors go through).  It is my opinion, that people are not ready for the information being presented, they are used to their ways of  “doing business” and we have to work with others where they are, at the level they are operating at, with their own life experiences, not ours.  We may have gained the insight of a situation, problem, pattern, disease, but they haven’t, so there will be counter attack or criticism.

When we put ourselves out there, expressing ourselves, teaching something, perhaps sharing wisdom, there will be those who disagree. They will throw their own projections at us just so they can feel better about themselves. They will go to great lengths so they do not have to look inward to propel change in self.  A lot of people who are really ready for self examination, self mastery and change, will be willing to open those doors of those rooms that are so dark, which have old ghosts, pain, suffering, that has been shut forever, never to be opened, never to be talked about, never to see the light of day. Open those doors, see what’s being repressed.

When we repress thoughts, feelings and behaviours, we become numb, we die, we cannot function properly.  This death is at a very deep soul level.  This can then impact our physical, mental and spiritual health.  It is important when we are working on ourselves, we are open to doing everything to get the final result – self realisation – total freedom from pain and suffering.  This can only be achieved if we open all those doors, that we have shut down totally, in “Top Secret” compartment, “Never To Be Opened” door of darkness.  Those doors must be opened.  If someone triggers us into a state of anger.  We must ask ourselves why did that anger me so much?  Go inward and look for that wound/injury.

When someone reacts badly to a teaching, research, information, they are simply NOT ready for the information and if given to them at this time, they will not accept it and get very angry as this their way of protecting themselves and their truth.

Anger is a form of protection. It protects from someone coming to remove our well built shields, layers and layers of untruths and repressed emotions we have been hiding well.  If the truth comes to unveil what we have stored in the closet, which is embarassing to reveal to ourselves, then the subject may become angry with the premature information, knowledge and wisdom.

We can agree to disagree, as there are multitude of colours in a rainbow and hues of belief systems on this planet.  Add ours to that mix, there’s another system in place.  Your tribe will come to you, follow your path, speak your truth with love. Fear not, all is well, speak your truth, write your truth and it’s ok if some do not agree with your teachings, they are simply not ready for it and disagreement from others is merely a way to learn that some people are restricted to their own systems of beliefs.

Keep speaking, expressing yourself and being  in your truth, the world needs it.

Much love and power to your communication.

Kiran G

 

Returning Responsibility to Others!

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What happens when others deny their responsibility,  play the “innocent game” or make you responsible for their own failure?

It’s a great burden to bear, right?  There’s a lot of people who want to do nothing and pass their own burdens onto others.  Have you met them at all?  Someone who gives orders, pretends to be superior, authority figures who deny responsibility, play the dumb game, the victim game, lazy or just an abuser who loves to pass on their debt/pain onto others.

It’s not your responsibility to carry other people’s responsibilities/pain or burden, if you were made responsible for anyone who isn’t your responsibility, then there is the likelihood that you have never learnt boundaries and the knowledge of what is your responsibility and what’s not yours.

Realising what your responsibilities are – is the first step towards having very strong boundaries.  Seeing the truth can be difficult, especially, if you believe that certain things are your responsibility when it’s not, it’s also difficult if you were made responsible for too much or too little.

For example, the person who takes and takes, has made the giver responsible for their wealth and energy.  The taker then believes that the giver must give and the giver out of their goodness – believes the same.

This becomes a pattern of abuse, over time, the taker expects this giving relationship to keep giving, if the giver realises or stops giving, the taker becomes very abusive.  The taker feels a sense of entitlement from the giver, as they (the taker) feel the giver belongs to them or has to sacrifice themself because that was the agreement.

When the giver stops giving or becomes aware of boundaries, the taker can become very aggressive or emotionally manipulative – i.e, “I love you, I will do anything for you, you are my love, you are the only one who can help me, save me, you’re my best friend, you’re the one who rescues me, I need you, I have to be with you, I am better with you and so on …”  This is a sign of a one-sided, toxic relationship, because in a healthy friendship, relationship, there is giving and receiving.  Both parties contribute equally.

When one gives, the other just takes (I don’t mean receives, but taking implies force) this is an abusive relationship, partnership, friendship and it must be ended.  It is your responsibility to know what your responsibilities are and what aren’t yours.

A taker never gives and doesn’t want to give, a taker is in debt usually, has a negative bank account, they take because they have nothing and need to take from others to live.  It’s not a choice, it’s a necessity for these entities.

They never learnt to take responsibility, they played the victim, blamed others for their problem and misery and continue to do so.  They never say, “well it was partly my fault, because I put myself through this situation …” or if it was a childhood trauma, they will not take responsibility for their pain and suffering in their adulthood and continue to blame others and never do something about it.  They still blame others for their own problems.

If traumas occurred in childhood, of course I am not suggesting it’s our fault, but what I am saying is dealing with the trauma, pain and suffering in our adulthood, is our responsibility, it is not someone else’s responsibility to keep filling in our bank of energy, prosperity and happiness.  Others will probably do that for a little time, but long term, we have to take responsibility for our health, happiness and well-being.

So, if others keep on transferring their pain onto us, expecting us to sort it out for them, to keep giving to them for them to keep filling their own vessel with nectar, energy and goodness whilst the giver shrivels away, this is abuse and narcissism.

Knowing what is our responsibility and what isn’t, is an art.  As long as we look after our own happiness, keep on healing ourself, question our motives for doing things if there is personal gain, if it comes from a clean heart and we give to others with balance (now that we have learnt to take responsibility with giving to others), then we can’t go wrong.

Taking our own responsibilities are essential for a good balanced life.  Admitting our fault, seeing the truth of a situation, removing takers from our life, honouring the self with self love and self worth, because when we see those who are in a habit of taking with force and never contributing to our happiness, then, it’s time to let them go, return their own banks of responsibilities to them as it wasn’t our burden to carry in the first place.

Make them responsible for it, stop carrying their pain, horror and abuse as this is toxic and slavery.

Kiran G

 

 

 

Life is here

Happy New Beginnings!

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Wow! what an end it has been!  I have been waiting for so many things to end.  Sooo many, can’t even count how many things, people, situations, to go awayyyy!

It hasn’t been easy, some people would NOT leave, would not go away, even though they weren’t wanted.  Yikes!  I don’t get that, but hey, this is the kind of world we live in, some people live to make others miserable, it’s their life purpose, their mission, they were born to do that shite!  Some people do not take rejection well.

However, one persona non grata is finally GONE, with their horror and baggage – Out with their trash, of all kinds.  Justice is being done and I feel elated.  Yooohooo.  I have learnt that evil exist and will do anything to ruin us, if they aren’t part of our life.  Divine justice babay! phewwww, it’s like I have been waiting lifetimes for this.

On that note, it feels like freedom is here,  with my beautiful life, wonderful love, magical everything, it feels like my life is beginning all over. With ALL the right people, it felt like almost a big purge took place in my life.  It was the greatest purge and amazingly, life is sooo beautiful when we stand up for ourself, kick azz of those whom need to be kicked, remove those whom need to be removed, give ourself the best of the best, even if that means we have to go to war to take back what’s ours.

Power to the good hearts.

Your time is here.  I rejoice in my own victory, I command same for the light ones.

Kiran G

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The Dancing Queen – It’s Time to Shine.
Love is in the air, my beautiful twin flame
WE walk together, forever! The divine love.

Speak Up, Speak Your Truth, Speak Out Loud!

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Speak your inner truth!

Balancing and healing the throat chakra is important for those who feel they cannot speak, aren’t able to speak or speak up, it is also for those who feel they do not have a voice, have felt invisible, mute, that something bad is going to happen for speaking or speaking up, have stopped speaking due to fear of reprisal, each time they speak, they feel attacked, someone is angry at them for speaking or speaking their truth, they lose a lot, they lose friends, family member, that trouble follows them when they speak, the authority or authority figures will come after them, they attract trouble or things generally go bad for speaking or speaking up.

A lot of good people are scared of speaking, they have either been in oppressive relationships, where they have felt they couldn’t speak or speak up, their parents were too controlling, telling them not to speak, or that if they spoke, bad things will happen, that speaking or speaking up means they do not respect their parents, that speaking or speaking up meant that they disrespected cultures, traditions or customs, that superstition dictated that speaking, speaking up, smiling, laughing or being free was bad and brought on bad luck and so on and on and on …

Some cultures thrive on women not speaking.  Oppression of women and girls are favoured as it means that the male authority figures have control over their female children.  Women are expected to be mute, to do as they are told, to submit to the male power and figures.  Over millenias, these cultures, customs, religions and traditions have normalised women being the inferior race.  It is seen as a sign of power, when a man has total control over his woman/women.  Women are meant to submit, follow in the footsteps of men.  Women cannot have a voice, they are ordered to stay quiet, the male is the only one who does the talking, the woman silently nods and submits to the man.

To date wedding ceremonies, including popular ones, include vows to submit to the man, the man is master and provider, the woman must submit to the man, that is the beginning of their life together, already there is submission and control.  The woman has a tough walk, discrimination follows her everywhere, in workplace, in marriage, in society, culture, tradition and everywhere else.  Now, add to that old fears of witch hunt, wise women being burnt alive as witches, systems making an example of strong women, who dared to speak up, be free, educate themselves, walk on the street late at night, try and do something against all the odds stacked up against her.

This isn’t a piece of writing to make us a victim, but is one to celebrate all of us who rise despite the seemingly insurmountable challenges that we face and still rise.  Some cultures do not see a powerful woman as a positive thing, they see it as a poison.  STILL WE RISE.  With power and opening that throat, that super power that reside within the throat, the power-house of a voice that we have.  Once we master the speech, the power of speaking, of communicating, with control, power, energy, without fear, we give other sisters permission to rise, to speak, to be and do what we want to.

This isn’t an “us versus them”, it is about gathering our strength, our power, using it to make the world a better place, it isn’t to be used to attack men, it is to be used for good, to empower, to educate, to love and speak with love, to teach that we aren’t to be feared, we are here to help, to add to the colours, the love, the power, to bring a new energy, to vibrate higher, to partner with our divine masculine, to help change cultures, vapourise those traditions that tell us that women are the enemy, that wearing a short skirt means she wants to be raped, that if she is coming into her powers, she must be harmed or violated so she submits again!

It is time to challenge the norms of society, to call out the injustices against women and men (who are feminine) who are also going through the same issues.  Open your mouth even if your lips split, open your throat even if it shakes, speak up, speak out, let the walls of patriarchy tremble, let the foundations of fear crumble, stand up, speak up and speak your truth.  It is time.

 

Kiran G

Speak your Truth